It's an old joke that you can pick out the married couples in a restaurant because they are the ones who are not talking to each other. And yet, most people do not marry someone they cannot talk to. If you think back to the time when you were dating your spouse, were there instances when you had nothing to say to each other? Probably not. So what happened?
Good communication is one of the keys to strong and happy marriage. When difficulties in communication are not dealth with, they can breed to further complications. Hence, try to enhance couple communication by:
- Be aware of your feelings. Good communication starts with understanding yourself.
- Understand the other person's point of view. You cannot communication your point of view without understanding where the other person is coming from.
- Spend at least 15mins of quality time each day catching up with each other.
- Timing is important. It is best to talk about important issues when both are rested, sober and ready for serious talk. It's wise to avoid serious discussions when you are tired or too angry.
- Respectful tones are helpful. Your tone of voice and body language communicate more than your words.